So, you should know, I’ve been in weddings before:
- First, it was my cousin Steve’s as a flower girl (where I endured a boat ride from ceremony to reception and learned exactly how bridesmaids are supposed to act and dance semi-inappropriately).
- Then I was in my cousin Annie’s wedding, this time as a bridesmaid. At this wedding I learned that even the under-aged bridesmaids can knock back a few at the reception. Score.
- Lastly, I was my sister’s Maid of Honor. It was at her reception I learned that one can never be too prepared for their toast, and when your mind draws an inevitable unprepared blank, just cry (people find it endearing).
Anyway, this past weekend was a wedding first for me: My first ‘Friend’ wedding! At this wedding I witnessed, as a bridesmaid Aimee Sprenger, in the blink of an eye, become Aimee Heider. Le sigh.
Friend weddings are a whole different ball game. A friend bridesmaid is expected to bring lots of non-family attributes to the wedding party. A friend bridesmaid must be especially sure to bring the following to the reception’s head table:
- Dance moves: When that DJ begins coaxing guests on the dance floor, you lead, others will follow.
- Look pretty: Not just for the camera. But for all the little girls that are obviously looking up to the bridesmaids (see Steve’s wedding notes).
- Goldilocks of Drunkness: Definitely need that fun buzz in order to charge the dance floor, but no one wants to see your Spanx. Trust.
- Compliments, compliments: Tell the bride she looks beautiful but not in the baby talk kinda way. Obviously this was an easy one for me (see below picture).
- Groomsmen rule: Get in good with the groomsmen early on. This way, when they make a quick run to the bar, they make sure you’re taken care of. It's just good sense.
- Secrets: Don’t tell the bride anything she doesn’t need to know. Especially that her white wedding dress attachable straps got red lip-gloss on them before the ceremony. Lips sealed (like the lip-gloss cap should have been).
Next up: Styna & Stef (see below) and Beck & Tommy (see the below, below).